I have been having an inner battle lately!
Have you ever made a pro and con list before?? Well, that's basically what I have been doing with our current situation. . .basically is it worth going through all the trials all over again to TRY and start a family. Especially when everyone seems to give the impression that it only gets harder once the kids are here, I wonder if it's just as hard or harder then what we have had to endure. So frustrating . .AARRRGGGHHHH!!
With that being said. . .
After taking pictures of this sweet little one. . .
and her beautiful happy family. . .
well lets just say that the con list may not be as long anymore!! ;)
A big thank you to this family for letting me practice my camera skills on them. Trisha, I have a huge CD of photos for you!! I definitely can't send all of these to your email. . .way too many!! Thanks again!!
**I would love more practice to anyone interested! ;)
Friday, October 17, 2008
Is it really worth it??!! Really?
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Beautiful pictures Heather!!
And, yes...although children are A LOT of work, it is definitely worth it. I am so sorry that conceiving has been a trial for you. I have a friend here in the same boat, and I never know what to say....so I hope I didn't say the wrong thing. Love you tons and the Lord will let you know what you should do.
Oh and I so wish you could take our family Christmas pictures....moving to Texas anytime soon?;)
I am a HUGE advocate for Pro/Con lists. But some things can't be decided by a pro/con list. Some things - like starting a family - is either a yes or a no. You either want to have kids or you don't. You don't want to delve into something so life consuming based on the fact that there were slightly more pros on your list. It is a HUGE commitment, and you don't want to bring children in this world if you aren't sure that you can give your all to these children. You shouldn't have kids if you are iffy on the subject.
With that being said, I know what you mean by 'Is it worth it' since you and Ryan have been having a hard time conceiving. Well, I think it may well be worth it if this is something that you know you are supposed to do. Anyone who meets you knows that you were meant to be a mother and knows that it is something that you have wanted for a long time. Maybe there's a reason why you have to fight for it. You may not know what that reason is yet, but once you are able to hold your own child in your arms, you will.
-Just my 2 cents.
Come practice on Laney! (and the rest of us) I would love to have you come over and take some pictures any time. As to the other part... is it worth it? For me, they are. I will not lie. Motherhood and pregnancy are rough. But the rewards are infinite. You have already been through so much and I am in awe at your strength. I have no doubt that you would be an amazing mother and that Ryan would be an awesome daddy! That being said... i know that you have to decide those big life questions on your own with lots of prayer and those lovely pro and con lists. (I love those too!) Good luck! See you Sunday!
Ok, so reading your post(and seeing pics so dear to my heart) makes my eyes well up. Any mom who has been through a little bit of what you have understands COMPLETELY what you are going through. Ditto everything Tawny said. The BIG questions in life all come down to prayer. That way you will have no question in your mind about your decision when it is made. However, I believe you already know what you want. I can see from the posts that I am not the only one who knows you and Ryan would be great parents, and that you were meant to be a mother. That being said, I also know how hard it is to try again after loosing a child. Those fears never go away. So, I understand why you would have the cons. Life is full of challenges and I believe you have done an amazing job handling them. I admire your perseverance... You are steady in your goal in spite of difficulties. As for, is it worth it? I cannot imagine life without them. Just as I cannot imagine life without my husband. The best things in life require the most work. So..., yes it will be a lot of work, but it will also be one of your greatest joys. Can you tell I am pro mommyhood? ;) Anyway, I love ya sweetie. I will be there for you if you and Ryan decide to go through with it,(tummys to fee and laundry to be done!;P) and if not, I will still be there for ya! ;)
Oh my gosh, Heather, YOU took those beautiful pictures!?!?!?! They are amazing! You should have done my wedding! You are a PRO!!!
Okay, my opinion on your pro and con list might not count for much as a childless person, BUT, you are such a STRONG woman that I know if you choose to try again, you will make it though what ever the outcome is. I know you will. I understand that its such an emotional toll on you, but if you want it, go for it. I hope you know I'm always here for you, if you need to chat, if you need to cry, or if you just need a 'hello'. I love you and just want you to be happy! So the best of luck with your list. But be sure to pray. :) Next time we talk, I have to tell you a story about how Elizabeth came to be... you know, my cousin.
Good luck with every thing... especially your new career of a professional photographer. (hee hee!) - I know you could make it in that business!
Come...practice on me...or practice on me if I get my way and come see you!
Heather...I almost feel like I can't talk...because, well I have two little miracles upstairs sleeping right now. I do know a bit of heartache at this time...and have made the same list many times in my heart and mind as you are now. I don't have the answers...Father does. Sometimes it is SO hard to take his answers, and his timing as it isn't our own. EVERYONE tells me...and I mean EVERYONE tells me that when the trial is ALL over, he will have something HECKA sweet in store for me. The same applies to you. We take the bitter, so that when the sweet comes we more fully recognize it, appreciate it, and cherish it.
That being said, the day after Jothan almost died...(I can't believe I am writing that) I was SCREAMING at him for throwing a tantrum...so is it easy? Not always! Is it worth it?! To have that forever...to kiss on them at night even after a tantrum filled day...(including the words, "I hate you Mom!") it was worth it...and I was ever so grateful he was here to yell at me and scream at me.
I love you sweet girl. I pray for you...I think of you often. Hugs and kisses!
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